If you want Gentleness in your lifeBe Gentle.
If you want Peace (which includes Calmness, Happiness, and Joy) then choose instead to Be In Peace (Calmness, Happiness and Joy come with it automatically).
If you want GrowthThen you must notice yourself Growing.
If you want honorable and kind childrenHonor and acknowledge their Kindnesses.
If you want approval from othersQuit seeking their approval. (We all admire the most people who don't give a damn what others think - who are true to themselves.)
If you long for HappinessRemember that you can choose Happiness in every moment.
The easiest way to do that is to choose to think about
and live out loud
things that make that Happiness known to You
-in every moment.