Friday, January 01, 2010

New Year's Revolution

Mmmmm, [she sighs in deliciousness, as she is very happy with this year's word] my third year for a one-word resolution.

In 2007, my word for 2008 was Intention.
A powerful word. A constant reminder to be conscious of all workings and thoughts. A steady awareness of what I was creating. A helpful and worthy course, certainly.

This last year my chosen (felt) word was Still.
Again, an intrinsic word... something that came from deep inside. Being in the Still meant coming from the stillness, the authentic center... not only coming from, but being aware of what Spirit seeks and being willing to go to and come from that place as often as possible.
Serving and Being and Doing the most valuable parts of my Self.

Interestingly, as I ponder my word today, I think about how similar and serious those two words are.

Last night we celebrated with friends. And it was a very, very fine celebration. At dark we packed up the children and soups and thermoses of hot chocolate (and beer and whiskey to keep the chill off the Mama's and Daddy's :) ) and sleds and hats and extra mittens and we headed to our -collective- neighborhood park for some nighttime snow play.
We had shouts and tossing snow and a lovely, bright, terrifically warm fire. What a fine time we had! A perfect way to do it, we all decided, I think.

My girlfriend Aubrey had mentioned that she wanted to burn some things that she wanted to rid herself of before she greeted 2010.
So I tossed in a notepad and a pen into the bag of mittens.

As we sat around the fire, and talked - as we often do - and Aubrey started shedding her Unwanteds, I considered the things I wanted to be free of. It didn't feel True to start listing things that I consider obvious or what I might even call trite (anger, debt, extra pounds, etc.) so I considered what I truly wanted to be free from.

Doubt. I want to be free from doubt. I know the rules. I have the tools and information to create for myself all of the things that I desire and require. Truly, I only need to practice more "thinking from the end", as I said last night to my friends, and letting in the Knowing.

So, following this most satisfactory observation, last night, I of course considered that my word should or could have something to do with this conviction or knowing.
Of course, when pondering things you long to Create in you life, 'tis always best to focus on something you're for, as to opposed, as natural laws show us that Creating is always about what your focus is - so you'd better make sure you're focused on the good stuff, if that's what you desire to create.

So. Trust?
I did consider it. The problem was that though Trust seemed pretty fitting (particular to an unschooling Mama) it also seemed a little trite.
I didn't consider it at the time, but now I also see it as following along with the other two serious ones from the last two years. Trust didn't quite do it for me. It would be challenging, and no doubt I would learn something along the way, but it wasn't where I want to go.

I considered Joy.
Joy was good, because it is something that is a big consideration and part of my life. Not foreign, certainly.
And while it didn't quite reach me at the proper level, it did get me thinking in the right direction.
Expansive, I thought.
Expansive is good.
Expansive is ... well, expansive.
Expansiveness is Big, and Joyful, and Me, and Soulful, and Beautiful.
Which leads me to...

Aah, Beauty.
Beauty is good.
Beauty is about appreciating my home.
Beauty is about finding joy in a basket of neatly folded laundry.
Beauty can be easily appreciated in clean carpets, sunshine streaming in, candlelight glow, a pretty picture, and a clean pillow.
Beauty is certainly contained in my life with my children. And looking for it in my everyday moments and interactions with them can only be a very expansive and Good thing. Watching them without judgment or fear, and stopping to appreciate their thoughts or processes - and looking for and appreciating the beauty - it seems very Big.
Bringing, finding, and being beauty in my other relationships can certainly only be a good thing. Concentrating on it with my interactions with my husband... thinking on it and coming from it when having dealings and conversations with loved ones - friends and family - that feels kind and authentic.... it feels beautiful... it feels Right.
Practicing beauty when living the mundane - standing in line at the grocery store. Waving at neighbors. Walking through the neighborhood with the children or our Annabelle. Rinsing dishes. Shining windows. When I ponder these very ordinary tasks, and think upon doing them with Beauty in my heart or intention, (instead of the usual hurry-up-and-get-this-doe-I've-a-million-0ther-things-to-do way I do things), it changes everything. It's almost like joy, but it seems even bigger. Deeper and more encompassing.
It seems liberating. Freeing. it seems like Growth.

Once I started contemplating this beautiful word, I knew it was the one I want and need.
I had a thought for a second that it doesn't obviously speak much about my relationship with the All, or Creating (as did Intention and Still), but I considered that I am not likely to forget God :), and I'm not terribly concerned that I shall forget to create consciously.
And then it occurred to me that it could be that when practicing Beauty, it could be that I find or discover a whole new thrilling possibility - that I have a beautiful relationship and place in the Universe. That would be pretty Big, too, wouldn't it?

And so there you have it.

In Beauty already exists as a category in my sidebar, and I'll not be moving or rearranging those posts, but will simply add to them.

I am so looking forward to this Beingness.
It is my intention to
and Be.
In beauty.


KMDuff said...

I love your thoughts on this. Beauty is a wonderful word. I also considered trust, and thought about your word Still from last year. Look forward to the year.

Darcel said...

What a wonderful post! I like the word beauty.
Wishing you all of the beauty life has to offer this year :)

sarah in the woods said...

Beauty is a good one.
God is full of beauty; He is the maker of beauty everywhere. Hope you don't mind me sharing these beautiful verses with you.

"The Mighty One, God, the LORD, speaks and summons the earth from the rising of the sun to the place where it sets. From Zion, perfect in beauty,God shines forth." Psalm 50:1,2

"One thing I ask of the LORD, this is what I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life, to gaze upon the beauty of the LORD and to seek him in his temple." Psalm 27:4

Here's to a beautiful year!

Penny said...

Stunning and inspiring post Stephanie :)

Phyllis said...

Interesting that you should pick BEAUTY...I, too, picked that word for my homeschooling blog...All Things Beautiful...I picked it because I want to surround my children with all things that are beautiful as much as I can, and my strivings are to discover what it means to be beautiful....what things to include in that category. It is a wonderful striving...I hope you have as much of a beautiful time as I have had in the striving...
Happy New Year,

singingfamily said...

thanks for this post, as always it was a reminder of the possibilities that await us in our worlds.

ladybug-zen said...

question: what is "thinking from the end"?

i did a similar ritual as well. i burned all my unwanteds in a metal pot under a full moon. very powerful!

"a thing of beauty is a joy forever"

it just came to me now. did you quote it in your post? maybe you did and that's why it's swimming around in my head. :)

Sam said...

A beautiful and meaningful post. I liked all your words - they all resonated with me.
My word for myself this year is Resiliance, because that's what I need, but I now have these other words ringing inside me to share with my family.
Oh, the best of all worlds.

Thank you for another inspiring post :-)

Stephanie said...

clbz -
"thinking from the end" is living your life as if what you desire is already accomplished... like holding the peace inside you that you would feel if it were already so. Like feeling how it feels to have it done, like treating yourself as if you already are what you'd like to become.
Very powerful stuff, that.

Leanne said...

Oh my!... timely and so, so very good. What beautiful words Stephanie and what powerful hope for your new days of beingness.

ladybug-zen said...

thanks for that. will give it a go :)

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Brooke said...

This is a lovely post: love that idea of burning things/letting the Unwanteds go. I've come across that idea before of choosing a word theme for the coming year. I want to give a little thought to what mine would be now!